Today’s guest post is by Gary Rodrigue, Intellectual Property Alliances & Licensing at IBM. 

 

My husband and I have been together 34 years…and would you believe it we have no pictures of us holding hands.

Now…we have been very OUT for a very long time. (EG: I was one of the early members of the IBM LGBT EXEC Task Force. Aaron was the 1st Professor to sponsor the LGBT club at the college he taught at.)

I kept on asking myself why, we had no pictures holding hands…and I realized that something happened very early on in our relationship that caused this.

This one, one of my favorites was taken at our farm in New Zealand- Gary

This one, one of my favorites was taken at our farm in New Zealand- Gary

We were living in gay and progressive Laguna BEACH, CA at the time, and two men were walking down the street holding hands during the day.  A car from out of town stop and very badly beat the “queers” up.

That was very traumatic for us…our safe bubble of Laguna Beach was no longer safe.

We stopped holding hands…because it was not safe.

It made me sad to think about that event, how traumatic it was and the long lasting unconscious ramifications of it.

There are tons of photos of us like the one attached…all taken in “safe” environs, but none holding hands, in more “everyday” environs.

So, as I said this work is important…very important.

Thank you,

Gary

 

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